Monday, July 27, 2009

How To Influence People

A Pebble in the Pond

In today’s growing population, it is so easy for everyone to get lost in the crowd. The great things we do can go unnoticed if we simply sit there and wait for luck to strike on us. What is necessary is to be that person who inspires other people to change for the better. This not to say that we all must aim for world wide popularity. The important thing here is to be able to inspire others to follow our footsteps and create a ripple effect, much like a pebble thrown into a pond.

Influencing can sometimes be looked at as being able to subtly convince people to do what you want without making them feel like they are being coerced, much like a sleight of hand. The other person isn't prodded into agreeing with you, but is unconsciously being persuaded into understanding what and how you think.

Influencing is also about inspiring. The thing with the world today is that countries are ridden with problems. What we all need right now is that person to give others hope and to enthuse them to follow in their footsteps. The world leaders have been trying to do this but their efforts are futile and are in vain because the people don’t have enough motivation to think positively. Aside from that, the majority cannot directly relate to these world leaders. To most people, they are figure heads who are much like strangers. It is harder to relate to someone we hardly know, and though we hear their goal, the impact increases when the action comes from someone we can all relate to.
This article is a call for everyone to be that bringer of change.

Whoever you may be, influencing others is about having the confidence and willingness to use yourself to make things happen. We all must use every means of communication to create the impact that we all want, because right now, we all just let things happen.

To be able to inspire others, we need to understand what they want and need. This in no way means twisting ourselves into knots to become someone else. Rather, it's about understanding which portion of our personality fits theirs. Of course to make this a reality we need time. But if we do want things to change, we have to be that change, that person who inspires others to follow our footsteps.

Every single day, we're confronted with situations where we need to influence, lead, and persuade people. We need to take advantage of these situations, and one way to do this is to lead by example, not just words. People who talk a lot tend to drive others nuts. By seeing what they can become, people are more inspired to follow. We must have a proper understanding of people and their nature if we are ever to win others over. When we gain a proper insight, then and only then, can we become the person of influence. This is very possible when we show them how they can get what they want by simply following our examples. It is leadership at its finest, because it is by example.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Why Visualization Works to Your Benefit

A great way to achieve your dreams is using the power of visualization. One creative method is called “process visualization.” Once you've had your goals set, you can think of your daily habits, behaviors, and the steps needed to get what you most want. You have to write down these action steps and visualize them. You have to create the mental picture of the entire process, going beyond the thoughts of only the end result. Some people even go to the point of visualizing their entire day as they would want it to unfold. When the pictures are vivid, you will be neurologically preparing your brain to carry out the behaviors needed towards that end.

By giving yourself a goal, you are able to alter your attention and behavior, thus steering your dreams towards your way. It will be effective because it allows your body to adapt to the situation and somehow alter it to adapt to what you want.

The greatest mental power is your imagination. You are able visualize anything and add embellishments so that you can embellish your visions and add details that seem to go beyond what’s normal. For those who want to achieve something, you could even imagine your life as if it were in a movie set packed with all the special effects. Think 3D!

Here’s why visualization works:

• It puts the subconscious on notice by saying "Here are my dreams, so help me achieve them." The subconscious then sends creative ideas and amazing inspirations for you to do to bring you a step closer.

• You might tell your subconscious that you would like a car and all of a sudden you start seeing these cars everywhere. An area in your brain has been activated and you are noticing lots of beautiful cars much like the one that you like. Visualization makes notice the things that once escaped your notice.

• Visualization is like prayer. In totally unexplained, accidental, and coincidental ways, you attract the right people, the right situations, and the right resources. You may feel that you are living a charmed life.

• Visualization gets you enthused and excited because your subconscious starts believing that your dreams are coming true. You believe that your dreams are yours for the taking and so you are stirred to take action.

The secret is that you have an amazing power within yourself that can bring about miraculous conclusions. The power that you have has been known to cure incurable diseases, build billion dollar companies, create magnificent notes, paint masterpieces, and make a perfect home.

Visualization is the light switch that turns on this power. Anyone that has created anything worthwhile in their lives used this method, whether deliberately or instinctively. The ones that systematically use visualization consciously have created amazing success. We all know who they are. They are world-famous athletes, the super rich, star entertainers, top salespeople, and almost anyone you can think of whom you believe has created a rather interesting life. Visualization is such a powerful tool that it pays to practice and increase our visualization skills.

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Being a Winner in Everything You Do

Some people begin tasks with the attitude for failure. As soon as they’ve started the first step, they’ve already set their minds for disappointments. This is the idea of self-preservation for most people. If they think that being happy only makes you angrier when things don’t work your way, then they will go through life just plain miserable.

There is a definitive distinction between the attitudes of the successful versus the unsuccessful. Yes, things may not always work your way. They’ll be times that you can’t help but be disappointed with how things are turning out, especially when you’ve set yourself up to be all gung-ho about it. But isn’t life special that way? When you give it your all and come out successful at it, the delight that you’ll feel will be incomparable. Developing a winner's outlook is one of the most basic characteristics needed for achievement. Sadly, society ingrains in us to expect the worst yet hope for the best. This explains why most people live a life filled with frustration and misery.

A lot of the people do not want to take responsibility for the way their life has turned out. Some people learn at an early age to play the victim of fate. This allows them to absolve themselves of any accountability that comes as a repercussion of their choices. But then something good happens, and they immediately jump at the chance of taking credit. This allows us to feel somewhat emancipated by believing that the fault is not entirely theirs.

Your mind creates what it focuses on, and when you have nothing in it but negativity, reality will manifest it. So when you have a half hearted attitude towards what you do, you will never get the result that you want for the simple reason that your heart won’t be in it. The successful, on the other hand, take the repercussions head on. They face up to their responsibilities and believe that they can achieve most anything they desire if they just never give up.

Once winners decide to do something, it is only a matter of time before it actually happens. All hindrances are just measly tactics to delay them from reaching the end. If you want to become this successful individual, never think that you can never be the best, and the most you’ll achieve is the silver medal. Go for gold by seeing yourself through your decision. Stay calm and simply look at Plan B if the first try didn’t work. Believing that you will be successful even before it happens increases the likelihood that it will happen. Once you have set your goal, you must have the drive to reach it regardless of the obstacles. Set your priorities and make sure that you create a balance just so you have a healthy attitude towards everything.

You all have the potential to become winners, you just need to believe in yourself and be open to the chances that come your way. With the optimistic outlook in life, barriers are there merely to test your will and fortitude.