Saturday, June 27, 2009

Lighten Up and Enjoy Your Life

Just to give you a clue on how improving your outlook in life helps you, take a look at the world’s leaders. Some of these people rose from nothing simply because they had hope and belief. They never stopped in their mission and did everything within their power to achieve success and happiness.

Unfortunately, many people have this mistaken notion that happiness and success were mutually exclusive concepts, and that to be on top, you have to step on others along the way. The road to success may be ridden with potholes, but a slow and sure journey towards the end is better than one that is done in a hurry. When things are done haphazardly, it gets more chaotic. Pressure forces you to take the shortcut and when impatience is involved, it is inevitable that you will hurt others.

What you need to do is enjoy life and know that happiness is closer than you think. If you are not satisfied with where your life’s going, it may be because you’ve hurt others along the way and that your conscience is badgering your heart until you to do what is right. You are simply looking at the wrong place and doing the wrong things. When you are not where you’re meant to be, then you can never feel fulfillment.

What you need to know is that you are here to enjoy life and to fulfill your purpose. We all are meant to do something good, and we must take heed to our calling to feel this utter contentment. You might be distracted from the right path for many reasons, and as a result you gradually lose all hope until you end up in total misery.

But where is happiness and how can you attain it? Most people seek it in the future. They wait for certain things to happen for them before they can say that they are happy.

These foolish individuals can never think in the presence. A wise man understands what he possesses at the moment. There is nowhere but here and nothing but now.

You have to know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. You will have a sense of responsibility and this is what will keep your smile on despite adversities. It is innate in a person to know what their purpose is, they just need time to soul search and realize what needs to be done. When you follow what you have been meant to do, you will live in harmony with the rest of the world.

The peace and happiness you are all seeking is already within. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. Remember, you are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Remember, your psyche knows no boundaries, so let your faith open your mind to unending possibilities.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Journey To Success - Playing to Win

Most of us would like to succeed at every endeavor and be like the superhuman we all would want to be. Unfortunately, unlike those superheroes we know of, we bleed and get hurt every time we fail. So, instead of pursuing our goal, we back out and quit. Life is a game, and our goal may not have to be to win in every round. What should be important is we learn from the rules so that we really do get to triumph in the end.

In our professional lives, we would like to be with a team of winners, but to make this even remotely possible, we need to create a good relationship among the players. We need to constantly inspire ourselves to try even harder. We all need a sort of wake up call to realize that winning is rarely easy. It takes a lot of hard work, patience, and time.

We need to celebrate every single moment of that journey. Yes, we may make bad choices along the way, but so what? At least we know whether they work or not. Once we make that decision to bravely venture into the unknown, we need to take careful and deliberate steps. The faster we rise, the harder we fall, and we should know that when every step is planned and deliberated, mistakes won’t blow up at a monstrous proportion.

When we play the game of life, we also need to realize that in order to win, we must come up with innovative ideas. We need to let go of perceived notions and let our creative juices flow. If we become willing to test things out, we get to strategize even better. Yes, we may be unsuccessful, but the disappointment is not the entire point of the journey. The most accomplished individuals in today’s world have failed, but they let their thirst for victory guide them through the entire process. In the end, their failures were soon forgotten because what people ultimately remember is their courage to take risks. In fact, they have become icons that inspire others to follow in their footsteps.

We really need to think about what we want most out of life. Otherwise, all the effort will be futile if we really aren’t that satisfied in the end. Playing to win requires inspiration, and what sets apart winners from the losers is their goal. They are out there in the field, giving it their best shot because they want to be the best that they can be. People who fail tend to play by giving it only a bit of an effort simply because they don’t want to lose. This negative attitude is what brings people down.

To succeed in life, we need to face each day with a kind of hope that gives us the strength to overcome hurdles and still smile after a sad and depressing day because we know that things can always get better. As long as we have the strength to wake up each morning and drag ourselves out of bed, we can still do something. Let us keep this thought always in our hearts because this is what will make a difference in our lives.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Getting Out of Our Comfort Zone

Comfort zones provide us with that warm fuzzy feeling because we know that we will always have a place filled with things that are familiar to us. When the unexpected happens, we sometimes don’t know how to react, especially if it is something we do not want. Our comfort zones provide solace and peace when life just gets too stressful. Sometimes, things get too tough to handle, and we retreat to this cozy place for a breather.

Unfortunately, when we want to achieve greatness in this lifetime, we have to realize that we need to get out and step into the unknown. Prominence and success exist outside the comfort zone. Those who achieve do so because they put themselves on the line and were willing to take risks. They do things that most won’t necessarily dare to do.

Growing up, we were taught to always take the safe route for the sake of our health and sanity. Unfortunately, reality doesn’t operate that way. In fact, the real world is really as tough as how we imagined it to be. We were taught to believe that we could survive with just a good education to back us up. Going through school may open the doors of opportunities, but victory comes from something deeper.

Developing the habit of making ourselves adapt to whatever environment we’re placed in is one of the most important things that we can do to ensure our continuous development. We should not limit our comfort zones to only one place. In fact, we should be able to fit in and adapt wherever we are. We should be comfortable with change and resilient to discovery of new things.

Too many people just wish to surround themselves with only what they know for the sake of their own comfort. They try to keep surprises to a minimum and excuse their attitude by saying that they’re a creature of habit. They call themselves smart and rational because they hold themselves back, thinking that everything outside their comfortable circle poses danger. While they want to do more, the fact that they already know what to expect is more desirable.

Typically, it is fear of being ridiculed or looking bad that stops them. If they think that they cannot be successful, then they’d rather not try it. Their attitude is what paralyzes them. Fact is, doing things for the first time is always difficult for everybody. Practice makes perfect, and in time, our endeavors will pay back. Sadly, most people believe in the concept of sticking with what is tried and tested. As a result, they lead boring lives, lives devoid of sheer fun and adventure.

If we want more out of life, we need to bring out our adventurous side.
Comfort zones don’t mean anything for risk takers because they know that reaching their goal trumps fear. Let us not live our lives in a box. Life always bestows its share of surprises, and rather than running away from them, which is nearly impossible to do, let us embrace our experiences and learn to see the bright side in these fateful shockers.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Dealing with Disappointments

Life doesn’t always work to our favor. When we encounter setbacks, it’s easy to become discouraged. We suddenly don’t trust ourselves and the people around us. This domino effect leads to the eventual collapse of the different aspects in our lives. The things that have taken us years to build suddenly lost in a blink of an eye. Then, we become immobilized, and then we retreat into this dark shell that brings us further down.

Eventually, we have to come out of this hole and start rebuilding our lives. We’re left with no choice but to do this or else all our financial reserves go down the drain. Quite often the only way out of a situation is to simply trudge go through it. As saddened and disappointed as we can be with the circumstances presented to us, we should decide that every day above the ground is still reason to celebrate. As bad as things can be, nothing is worth dying for.

Failures in some convoluted form are an integral part of life. We have to go through this to fully appreciate the successes that we have. If we were to become paralyzed and contemptuous, we will only exacerbate the already glum situation. It’s throwing another log to the fire, and this will continue on and on unless we choose to put a stop to it. This vicious cycle of self-imposed ruin is something that we have to overcome. Life is a journey of self-evolvement, and each problem was made to make us stronger and more resilient. We have to simply embrace life to learn how to face adversities. No matter how good or bad the situation may be, they all will eventually end.

Life is all about growth through a variety of experiences. We can choose resistance or we can choose acceptance. The latter allows us to embrace the inherent lessons along the way. There are millions out there who are in the same boat. Everyone has to deal with these same things and we are never alone when we suffer. Let us share the cross that we carry with our friends and ask them to help us during dire times. A burden shared is a burden halved. With this in mind, we have to know that we can be surrounded by love if we allow it. We all must remember that happiness is all about overcoming disappointments. When we ask the help of our loved ones, we also have to know that we shouldn’t hurt them along the way. We have to appreciate what they can offer and not ask for more. Friendship is a two-way thing. As much as we expect them to protect us, we also have to do everything within our power to make life easier for them because they also have responsibilities of their own to fulfill.

Perhaps the most pivotal message about disappointment sometimes is not about us at all. Sometimes the lesson learned is about inspiring others to never give up because there’s nowhere to go but up when we are at the lowest point in our lives.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Making the Right Career Change

We go to high school, go to college, and concentrate on our careers. The universities prepare us for the real world by enhancing our talents so that we do well in our chosen fields. We continue living this somewhat happy life but find ourselves growing more and more restless each day. We wonder, and then wham! The realization hits us like a bolt of lightning: we are no longer happy with our jobs. We realize after years of study that this isn’t what we wanted after all. We kick and scold ourselves, somewhat thinking that we should’ve thought more about this when we had all the time in the world. Then we wonder, could it be too late for us to make a career change? What if this is just a phase of our lives much similar to a mid-life crisis? Before we make any final decision, we have to think things through. Then, we have to stop punishing ourselves for the dire situation we created. We have to know that life is an ongoing learning experience, and regardless of age, there are too just too many aspects to learn in life that a lifetime is not enough to figure all these out.

Change is inevitable, and it doesn't mean we cannot learn to make something worthwhile of the necessary changes that life presents us with. Our careers keep us on a steady path, but when we are no longer happy with it, it’s difficult to stay on that path. We cannot help but veer away from it. It’s human nature to stay away from the things that displease us.

No matter how much we earn, the feeling of fulfillment must never be undervalued. We need to achieve the feeling of true accomplishment if we really want to be happy. Once we’ve decided on what to really concentrate on and specialize in, we need to plan ways wherein we can equip ourselves with the skills needed to earn that job. Letting go of our present careers completely may be too difficult to achieve. This is our bread and butter at the moment, and we would unable to do anything if there is no income coming in. Plan and make the shift slowly. If we have to offer extra hours at night, so be it. If the end makes us happy, then we might have to work hard to reach it.

In making in a big decision in changing your path, you may need some help. You should never hesitate to ask for it. We need someone who can help us put everything in perspective. Seeking support helps us to stay afloat when we feel like we’re drowning.

Making a change is always a tough decision to make. Ideally, we should have made the choice even before entering college, but it is never too late for anyone. Nowadays, we all can make something of ourselves with the help of modern technology. As long as we have the drive to enrich ourselves with the skill, doors will always be open for us.

Friday, June 5, 2009

The Significance of Honesty and Personal Integrity

The Significance of Honesty and Personal Integrity

When it comes to winning over the respect of people, honesty plays a major role in our success. Yes, our parents apparently hit the bull’s eye when they said that honesty is the best policy. However, many people mistake candor with tactlessness. Admittedly, there is sometimes a fine line between these two concepts. There are just some situations and people that we can’t agree with, and sometimes, we’re put on the spot when somebody asks for our opinion. Our friends may not mind our being frank because they simply know us better. Unfortunately, there are also people who just won’t be able to understand us. And why should they? Words can really be offensive when used out of context. It is actually up to us to decide how we are able to handle every situation with diplomacy.

It is then important that honesty should come with integrity. When we can’t say anything nice, then we might as well not say anything. To be rightfully honest is to also know how to be aware of the feelings of people. Empathy and a high emotional quotient play a big part here. We, ourselves, do not enjoy getting attacked by people we don’t really know. We have to differentiate right from wrong and know when it is most important to truly tell a person how we feel. Once we get into this sometimes too personal a zone, we have to leave all excess emotional baggage in the backseat for the simple reason that we should have an objective mindset when we talk to people.

The people around us react better to constructive criticism if they have enough sense to realize that we are only there with their best interests at heart, they are more likely open to listening to what we have to say. We also need to take a closer look at ourselves and know if we are the right person to do the job. This is the behavior of a person with a realistic image of himself or herself. We too are not perfect, but we also have to realize whether or not we are in the position to help.

Another question to ask is if our opinions are clouded by the beliefs of other people. If so, then maybe it is best that we walk away. Images are created by people, and they are not universally alike. We unconsciously create them from our experiences. Being honest with how we truly feel provides the means to see the symptoms of our own nature. We start to gain understanding when we also look deep into our very soul.

The principle behind telling the truth is making it possible to get what is an unprejudiced view of the situation. Once we know what our true intentions are and if they are pure, only then can we say that we can be honest. Let us then think with our brains and let our hearts show us the way to a clean and unsullied conscience.

In gist, if we want to become more honest people, we first must look into ourselves, know if it is the right thing to do, and try to handle every situation cautiously. The central concept of honesty is not to hurt other people. In fact, its main purpose is to find ways by which we can help others become the best that they can be.